Knowing that you’re being authentic and demonstrating good judgement is a huge benefit.
3 Your Life Isn’t Stuck On A Certain Trajectory
Once you’re coupled up, there’s an expectation: Move in, marriage, babies. Even if you don’t do any of those things, you’re still constantly fighting against that expectation. “Society promotes, encourages, and rewards coupledom and particularly marriage,” relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW, tells Bustle. “This is particularly hard on single women because unmarried men are portrayed as ‘sowing their oats’ or ‘playing the field’ while unmarried women are considered to be old maids that are left on the shelf.”
But the upside is, if you’re single, you’re not following that script— and so you can write your own expectations.
4 Fewer Responsibilities
Being in a relationship can be amazing, but it also means taking on a lot of responsibilities and priorities that weren’t yours to begin with. Their friends, their family, their needs — all of these can take up a lot of time and a lot of energy.
“I think that some people are meant to be single,” psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle. “They are confident, they love their lives, they love the ability to have no deep-rooted responsibilities that would keep them from doing things at the drop of a hat.” And there’s nothing wrong with that.
5 You Get To Design Your Own Life (And Apartment)
Some people like their damn space. Both in the sense of their life generally — and just how their home is organized. “If you enjoy living alone and spending time by yourself, you would prefer not to have to negotiate for what you want with a partner, or your real love is your career, then perhaps you are better off being single,” Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, tells Bustle. Cohabitation can be great, but it involves a lot of compromise. Being single means you don’t have to do that.
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